We are building a life you personally love (yep, totally overused statement, but the sentiment and meaning I desire is there).
For years, I spent living my life for everyone else. Everything from people-pleasing to being walked all over. From financial loss, emotional exhaustion and physical illness, my life didn’t belong to me.
In all the work I do, I always share everything begins and ends with us, what we allow and choose.
This is why the Mud Club’s pet name is actually the me-first club.
The core message is that you have to take care of yourself first, before you do anything for anyone else.
The club was crafted as an all encompassing space for me to show people through my lived experience how I built my life. More specifically, how I now carefully choose things to build into my life, versus trying to fit my life into everything else.
I have learned things like:
- saying no without guilt
- that I was allowed to change plans just because I want to without having to explain myself
- and letting people know I’m not okay with or available for certain things.
I have stopped being quiet about certain things that don’t feel good for me. I no longer show up where I don’t want to be. I’ve learned that saying no, and not doing things that don’t feel good or align for me, is far healthier than the emotional management that’s required to tolerate certain situations.
Necessary? Also yes.
Does it get easier to put ourselves first over time, and the more often we do it? Yes.