One of the things I learned many years ago through my work in 12-step programs was to take a daily inventory. How was my behaviour today? My actions? My words? My mood? How did I treat others? Over the years how I do this has changed to a Heatherized version, but it benefits me regularly.
Was there anything I need to correct, adjust or own? Did I need to discuss my behaviour with someone if I stepped out of line? Did I need to apologize to someone? What did I need to do better?
This daily inventory became so important to me that now it happens almost instantly in the moment. As I became more focused on self-care, the tools I would have to sit down and really think about started to become natural. It wasn’t easy over the course of the last couple of decades. I struggled, and if it wasn’t for those struggles I wouldn’t be here now, able to share in this current space I am in.
A space that remembers what it is like to be lost, struggling and frustrated. A space that has become beautiful and sacred, but always remembering “when” and “how” it was. It is easy to fall into old ways. It is easy to go back to old habits. When the pain of staying the same outweighed the pain of change (can’t remember where I first heard that), I realized that I needed to make adjustments.
Commitment. Consistent. Focused. Patient. Loving.
I had to commit to myself, to be consistent and focused, yet patient and loving.
Taking an inventory of your day to day isn’t intended to beat you up, shame you or guilt you. It is a tool to use, so you may dial in and review, and take care of yourself. Remember, each step is still a step, no matter how big or how small you want to label it, just keep taking steps.
Your heart and soul will thank you.